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1 John 5:6

And it is the Spirit that beareth witness, because the Spirit is truth.
True Prophecy Given By The Holy Spirit Will Bear Witness With Your Spirit!

One Sunday at Cornerstone Church, just as I was getting ready to start the service, a man I didn’t know bolted to the platform, leaned over me and said, “I have a prophecy from the Lord that God has told me to give today.”

The Bible says, “Know those that labor among you…” I didn’t know this man from Adam’s ox.  In obedience to the scripture I said, “I don’t know you.  Go sit down!”

He instantly started spewing out threats against me saying, “If you don’t allow me to give this prophecy all the plagues of Egypt will come upon you.”

He started waking toward the pulpit to address the congregation anyway.  I let him know I was fully prepared and totally willing to put him on his backside if he tried to speak to the congregation without my permission.

The next Sunday morning he returned to the church with several of his followers.  As I got up and started the service they all stood and began to chant, ”John Hagee is a Pharaoh.”

Our security team had to forcibly remove these “choice servants” of God from the service. 

I discovered they were a local cult group who did not believe in the building of new churches and we were in the process of building our new 5000seat church.

If I had let him go to the pulpit the people in my congregation would have rightly assumed that he was a man of God and that what he said was from God and my congregation would have been saturated with the spirit of doubt and confusion.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

1 Corinthians 14:13

For you have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but you have received the spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

II Corinthians 3:17—Now the Lord is that Spirit:  and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.
True Prophecy Produces Liberty… Not Bondage.

True prophecy will bring liberty to the individual and not bondage.  Any form of control over another person by intimidation, manipulation or domination is witchcraft.  False prophecy will lead to witchcraft.

Spiritual dependency on any person to receive a word from the Lord is not a healthy relationship.  A church or prayer group led by a pope or popette is on the road to confusion, deception, and control by the persons upon whom it becomes dependent.

Hear me!  Don’t get hooked on anyone but Jesus!

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Deuteronomy 18:20

But the prophet, which shall presume to speak a word in my name, which I have not commanded him to speak, or that shall speak in the name of other gods, even that prophet shall die.

If prophecy contains predictions that do not come true, the prophecy was false!
If we stoned false prophets in America we wouldn’t have so many people walking around saying, ”Yeah, yeah, thus saith the Lord,” When you presumed to speak as a prophet in Israel and the did not come to pass, they killed you.  That’s one way to reduce the volume of false prophecy.

Deuteronomy 18:21-22—And if you say in your heart, “How shall we know the word which the LORD has not spoken?”  When a prophet speaks in the name of the LORD, if the thing does not happen or come to pass that is the thing which the LORD has not spoken; the prophet has spoken it presumptuously; you shall not be afraid of him.

Simply stated, if someone prophesies in the name of the Lord and it does not come to pass, he or she is not a prophet.  You are ordered not to fear that person.  They do not represent God the Father.

Paul says that we are to prophesy according to the measure of our faith, “Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith’ Romans 12:6. 

Dynamic faith will produce a dynamic prophecy saturated with power and anointing.

Limited faith will produce a limited prophecy. 

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Romans 14:17

Romans 14:17—For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit.
Prophecy must bear fruit and agree with the Holy Spirit in conduct and character!

The words “meat and drink” are Paul’s attack on legalism.  Legalism is the keeping of manmade rules to gain righteousness with God.  The Jews were very concerned about the keeping of manmade rules concerning “meat and drink.”  How well they kept these rules determined their righteousness with God.  That’s legalism!

God hates legalism!  Why?  Because if you can be made righteous by the rules you keep, Christ died in vain.  Legalism makes righteousness possible through what I do and not what Christ did for me at Calvary.

Most denominations practice some form of legalism.  Most have a complete set of manmade rules that have no basis in Scripture.  Paul states in Romans chapter four that all that is required to be righteous is to believe that Christ died for our sins that he rose again and sits at the right hand of the Father.  If you believe that statement, you are righteous, and all your efforts to keep goofy manmade rules are an absolute waste of time.

What is righteousness?  Righteousness is living by God’s standards of right and wrong and humanists don’t want to answer to God or anyone else about their Godless conduct. 

In Washington D.C. there is a Department of Weights and measures.  This department exists so that sixteen ounces of bologna in Texas is sixteen ounces of bologna in California.

God has a Department of Standards too.  It’s called the Word of God.  Sin in Texas is sin in California and it’s sin in Europe.  God does not have different strokes for different folks.


Source:  Judging Prophecy

1 Corinthians 14:3

But he that prophesied speaketh unto men to edification, and exhortation, and comfort.
 
The Purpose Of New Testament Prophecy Is To Edify, Exhort And Comfort

The word, “edify,” means to build up or strengthen.  The word, “exhort,” means to encourage and the word “comfort” means exactly that. 

The message of prophecy is positive!

When anyone speaks a message into your life that leaves you filled with condemnation or fear or disturbs your peace…that message was not from God.  Forget that prophecy!

Let me explain the difference between the spirit of condemnation and the spirit of conviction.  The Holy Spirit convicts; Satan condemns.  When the Holy Spirit convicts, it says, “You told a lie, repent and be restored.”  God the Holy Spirit exposes the problem, tells you how to solve it and the solution will always bring peace.  Afterwards, you feel uplifted, edified, encouraged, and comforted.

The spirit of condemnation is from Satan and it leaves you saturated with a sense of defeat and despair.  There are no solutions and there is no edification, exhortation or comfort.  There is nothing positive!  Afterwards there is no relief.  Receive the spirit of conviction; reject the spirit of condemnation.

Let me illustrate from Scripture.  Jeremiah 1:10 gives a prophecy that says, “See, today I appoint you over nations and kingdoms to uproot and ear down, to destroy and overthrow, to build and plant.”  The words “uproot, tear down, destroy and overthrow,” tell you what needs to be done.  Then the Holy Spirit gives a positive solution…”build and plant.”  Compare II Corinthians 10:8 and 13:10 with Jeremiah 1:10 and discover from Scripture that the end purpose of all true prophecy is to edify.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

Ephesians 5:22— Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
When You’re Wrong, Say, “I’m Sorry.”  When You’re Right, Be Quiet.  Say, “I Love You,” And Say It Often!

The greatest problem in marriage occurs when both partners are struggling to be the leader. 

A physical body has only one head.  A physical body that has two heads is a freak.  Under God’s plan, the husband is the leader, and it is the wife’s responsibility to follow that leadership.

You need to stand by your man, with Jesus’ help. 

If you’re not happy with the quality of relationship in your marriage, pray this prayer with me:

Heavenly Father, in Jesus’ name, help me to be honest right now.  Help me, as a child of God, to stop pretending that everything is well when it’s not.  Help me to come out from behind my mask and be real.

Lord Jesus Christ, I confess that you are my Lord and Savior.  And I ask you to change everything within me that presents anything contrary to your perfect will in my life.  Change everything in me that prevents perfect communication.

Father, today in Jesus’ name, remove from me all pouting, intimidation, manipulation, and every kind of hidden motive that separates my partner and me.

And today, in Jesus’ name, heal the bitter memories of our past.  Restore us.  Refresh us.  Bring us together with a newness.  Let our relationship sizzle with the anointing of the Holy Spirit, in Jesus’ name, Amen.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Ephesians 4:15

but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head, even Christ

The More You Speak The Truth In Love, The More Love Your Partner Will Show—Part One

Two friends had been out a little later than they should have.  They came home to their respective wives late and the next day they met.  One man said to the other, “Was your wife angry because we were out late last night?”  The other man said, “Nah, in the final analysis, she came to me on her hands and her knees.”  “No kidding?  How did it happen?” the first man asked.  The second man looked kind of sheepish and said, “She crawled across the bedroom floor on her hands and knees, looked under the bed and said, “Come out from under there you coward, and fight like a man!”

Psychologist Dr. Henry Brandt says there is no nakedness that can compare to psychological and emotional nakedness.  When your wife or your husband points out your deficiency, you grasp for something to cover yourself with. 

I hear wives saying, “Well, I just can’t talk to my husband about that.  He’ll get mad.”  Let him get mad.  Go ahead and talk to him about it.  Men say ”Oh, I just can’t talk to my wife about that.  She’ll holler for a week.”  Let her holler!  Hit it head on and talk right through it.

Nothing improves your wife’s hearing like praise.  I don’t mean you have to get up every morning and sing, “There she is, Miss America.”  That’s a little much.  But praise would help.

The more love a partner shows, the easier it is to praise.  Truth is a two edged sword, and when you pick it up to use it, make sure you’re using it candidly and cautiously with your marriage partner.


Source:  Communication In Marriage

Romans 15:1

We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to please ourselves.
The First Commandment Of Communication Is This: If I Am Willing To Risk Exposing Myself Emotionally To You, Don’t You Dare Make Me Feel Ashamed!

No one likes to be ridiculed or rejected by someone they love.  If you are afraid of ridicule or rejection, you will refuse to communicate your true feelings.

When you start belittling the other person, communication stops, and emotional murder begins.

Emotional murder will change the partners in a relationship into what sociologists call married singles.  You live under the same roof, but you are divorced from each other emotionally.  You have the same name, but you have separate lies.  You go through a marital routine, bumping into each other occasionally, but you have no more than a cursory relationship.  What you had between each other is dead. 

Our society jabbers about how meaningful it is to be honest with each other.  The truth is, most of us are not honest, we’re liars.  We put on masks and play our designated roles. 

Listen, it’s all right to be real.  If things are not going well over at your Ponderosa, it’s all right to say “We’re hurting over here.  We need help.”  That’s being honest.

We’re human beings, with faults and failures and weaknesses.  The Bible says that hose who are strong are to pick up the weak Romans 15:1.  I think it needs an insert—those of you who are strong at the time, pick up those who are weak.  Pick them up, and together we can get to the kingdom of God, because together our strengths in Christ Jesus are greater than the powers and principalities of hell itself.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Proverbs 27:17

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.
Communication Takes Two People:  One Sending And One Receiving!

What blood is to the body, communication is to relationships.  When the blood stops flowing, your relationship dies.

What is communication?  Communication is the exchange of feelings or information.

Two people can have a conversation and not communicate at all.  A wife was talking to her husband and she said, “Do you love me with all of your heart and soul?”  He said, “Uh huh.”  She asked him, “Do you think I’m the most beautiful woman in all of the world?”  He said, “Uh huh.”  She said, “Do you think my lips are like rose petals?”  He said, “Uh huh.”  She said, “Oh honey, you say the sweetest things.”

The most important single ingredient in a longterm marriage is the ability to communicate!   

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Luke 12:4-5

And I say to you, My friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do.  But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear Him who, after He has killed, has power to cast into hell; yes, I say to you, fear Him!
Happiness Comes Through Death—Part Four

If we haven’t joined the family of God; if we haven’t believed on the Lord Jesus Christ and accepted Him as our personal Lord and Savior, we’ll find ourselves spending eternity in a different place.

It is the place called hell…a place of such utter horror that we can scarcely make ourselves think of it.  It was set aside by God for those who reject Him as their Father and who reject Jesus as Savior and Lord. 

An Inescapable Reality

“But I don’t believe in hell!”  You say.

Perhaps you don’t—but God does.  Jesus says those who don’t believe will not “escape being condemned to hell.”

Do I believe in a place called hell, with a literal, eternal, tormenting fire?  Yes, I do.  And I’m in good company.  Jesus believed in it, too.  He spoke of it often Matthew 5:22, 5:29, 13:41-42.

Every day of our lives, we live one breath away from eternity.  The most important question of life is:  Am I ready to meet God?

If you are not, and you wish to acknowledge God as your Father through His Son, Jesus Christ, just pray this simple prayer and you’ll become a member of the family of God, with heaven as your eternal home:

Heavenly Father, I know that I am a sinner and need your forgiveness.  I believe that Jesus died for my sins.  I am willing to turn away from my sin and follow Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.  Amen.

At this moment, you have discovered the ultimate secret of being happy in an unhappy world.  It’s knowing that God is your heavenly Father, that Jesus is your Lord and Savior, and that heaven is your eternal home!

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Revelation 3:15-16

I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot:  I would that you were cold or hot.  So then, because you are neither could nor hot, I will spew you out of my mouth.

We not only need to play the game according to the rules,
We also need to play it with all our heart, mind, soul and strength. 
We must give it our best shot every minute!

This is our duty before God, who has given us life and in so doing has “put us in the game.”

Remember the sin of the church in Laodicea?  The church didn’t walk off the field and quit altogether.  It kept playing, but only half-heartedly.  John recorded the opinion of our Lord in Revelation 3:15-16.  The message?  Half-hearted play is disgusting in the eyes of God.

When we stand before the righteous judge, His approval will depend not upon our skill, nor upon our success, but upon our willingness to do our duty.  Duty is not what we choose to do; it is what He has chosen for us to do.

It is said that King Henry of Bavaria became weary of court life and decided to enter a monastery.  The prior gave him the rules of the order.  The king listened eagerly and expressed delight at the prospect of such complete consecration.

The prior explained that obedience, exact and complete, was the first requisite of sainthood.  The monarch promised to follow his will in every detail.  “Very well, then,” said the prior. “Go back to your throne and do your duty in the station God has assigned to you.”  The king took up his scepter again.  Ever after, his subjects said of him, “King Henry has learned to rule by learning to obey.”

Learn to obey…wholeheartedly!

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Revelation 1:17-18

Do not be afraid…I am the Living One; I was dead, and behold I am alive forever and ever!

Happiness Comes Through Death—Part Two
We fear what we do not understand!

Dying is how we are born into eternity.  Death is the gateway to the life to come.  In God’s time, we will each be forced to pass from this dimension of life into the next.

We fear it.  But just on the other side of the veil, God the Father is rejoicing with the angels, because one of His precious children is coming home.

When Christopher Columbus set sail, the fearful told him that he’d fall off the edge of the planet into the abyss.  Rejecting fear, Columbus set out anyway…and discovered a new world, which defied description.

Jesus Christ also explored an unknown world, the world beyond the grave.  He returned from eternity to tell us, exactly and without doubt, what eternal life is like…”I was dead, and behold I am alive forever and ever!”

Jesus assures us that heaven is real.  He said, “In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you.  I am going there to prepare a place for you.  And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am” John 14:23.

Heaven is a land of perfection, created by the architect of the ages for the family of God.  It is a city “whose architect and builder is God” Hebrews 11:10.  It is a city where there is “no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away” Revelation 21:4.

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Psalm 34:12-13

Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.
The Bible Says The First Area Of Our Lives That Should Reflect The Presence Of God Is Our Speech.

I often joke that some of us should stop asking God for power to raise the dead and start asking Him for power to close our mouths.

“He who guards his mouth and his tongue,” the Bible says, “keeps himself from calamity” Proverbs 21:23.  “Calamity” is a strong word.  It means to be stricken physically, financially, emotionally and mentally.  Many Christians suffer calamity because their tongues are out of control and God is letting them eat the fruit of it.  They may be saved, but they’re certainly not happy.

When we’re not feeling well and we go to the doctor, he says, “Let me see your tongue.”  His trained eye can spot the diseases of the body through the evidence of the tongue. 

When we come to God in prayer, He says, “Let Me see your tongue.”  He can spot the stains of criticism, of faultfinding, of gossip and slander.

We should only criticize when we can do so with justice, with kindness and with humility, for the purpose of solving a problem and not attacking a person.  To criticize in any other way is to hurt others and ourselves.

In the same way, we should learn to ignore some criticisms and to welcome others.  In doing so, we will take an adversity and convert it to an asset and learn more deeply how to be happy in an unhappy world.

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

John 8:29

And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.

Destructive Criticism Will Lose Its Hold On Us When We Decide To Become Father Pleasers Instead Of People Pleasers!

If Jesus promised that criticism would be the result of living a godly life in a godless society, why should we be so surprised and upset when it comes?  One reason is that many of us were raised with the notion that we must please everyone at all times.

What rubbish!  Jesus was the Son of God.  He was absolute perfection in human flesh.  He couldn’t please everyone, and neither can we.

I know forty year old people who are still trying desperately to accommodate the unreasonable demands of their parents.  When their parents criticize them for not being attentive enough, they go into a funk.  Scripture says that we are to leave our parents and become part of the new family created when we get married Matthew 19:5.  I believe the same principle applies to single adults who have left home and set out on their own.

Certainly it’s right to honor our parents.  But it is unscriptural to let them dominate our lives.  We must cut the umbilical cord and close the door to continued criticism designed to manipulate us, our spouses and our children.

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

2 Corinthians 3:6

 …for the letter kills but the spirit gives life.
True Prophecy Injects Fresh Life Into A Meeting Of Believers

Whenever there is true prophecy that comes from the throne of God, the Holy Spirit will breathe upon it; and it will bring spiritual life to that meeting of believers.  The people will be edified, exhorted and comforted.  There will be a spirit of celebration and joy. 

Please understand prophecy can be bold and penetrating but in the end it will heal and restore, it will bring life and liberty.

I was the guest speaker on one occasion and at the end of the first night I felt like I had missed God in accepting the invitation to speak at this place at this time because my words seemed to hit the back wall and fall to the floor. 

After the first service I sought the Lord saying, “I prayed and asked about coming to this place.  I felt that I had your blessing in coming…and now I feel like I’ve missed your will.  Father, tell me where I missed it!

The Holy Spirit began to move in that room and I knew that I had not missed the Lord in coming.  Then He gave me a powerful word of knowledge.  With a knowing that is supernatural I knew that the leadership of the church was involved in homosexuality and adultery.

The next night as I was introduced to speak, the spirit of prophecy came and said, “The Lord has sent me here to say that the leadership of this church is involved in homosexuality and the church is riddled with adultery.  God is calling you to repent and to return to holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.”

The sound of silence filled the church.  Then suddenly and softly men and women in the audience began to sob and walk forward to repent of their sin.  Following the repentance there was a spirit of joy and celebration.  There was life in the service brought about by true prophecy.

The next night when I stood to speak, every word was absorbed as we drank deeply from the fountains of living water.  The spirit of prophecy and the word of knowledge had broken the yoke of sin and Satan…and we were now experiencing abundant life.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Deuteronomy 13:1-5

If there arises among you a prophet or a dreamer of dreams, and he gives you a sign or a wonder, and the sign or the wonder comes to pass, of which he spoke to you, saying, 'Let us go after other gods'; which you have not known; 'and let us serve them, you shall not listen to the words of that prophet or that dreamer of dreams, for the LORD your God is testing you to know whether you love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul. 

If A Prophecy Comes True And It Promotes Disobedience Against God Or The Scripture, It Is Not A True Prophecy!
Moses clearly states that just because the prophecy comes true does not mean the person who gave it is from God.  Looking to that prophet for “the answer” instead of God is idolatry that will bring the judgment of God upon you.

Paul encountered a young woman possessed with a spirit of divination Acts 16:16-18 who followed him through the streets and everything that came out of her mouth was true.  Without doubt many local charismatics went to her for guidance and touted her as a “spiritfilled woman.”  She was spiritfilled…filled with a demon spirit.

Paul commanded for the demon spirit to come out right on the street and the spirit of divination came out that same hour.  She was a slave and her master was furious because he was getting rich off her ability to give accurate predictions to other people.

Get it straight!  Satan will tell you enough truth to get you to listen, and then he’ll subtly lead you concept by concept into deception until you are his mental and emotional prisoner.


Source:  Judging Prophecy

Matthew 7:15-16

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.  You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thorn bushes or figs from thistles?
Prophecy must agree with the fruit of the Spirit!

Matthew 7:15-16 states that false prophets come as wolves in sheep’s clothing.  They look fine.  They even act like sheep.  They know all the church expressions that all “the right kind of people” know how to use. 

The first thing a false prophet or any person in deception will tell you is “DON’T JUDGE ME!”  You are not judging, you are checking his fruit.

What constitutes judging and what constitutes fruit inspection?  Judging is when you have two Christians side by side and you make an inward decision as to which of them is the most spiritual.  That’s judging.  Only God can see the heart and know the motive.

When Al Capone and Mother Teresa stand side by side and Al tells you not to judge him for his lying, rape, murder, tax evasion etc., you aren’t judging him when you call him a child of the devil.  That’s what he is.  His fruit declares it and for you to say anything else would place your intelligence in question.

Peter describes a false prophet by saying, “But chiefly them which walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness and despise government.  Presumptuous are thy, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities 2 Peter 2:10.

The phrase “despise government.”  Government means spiritual authority.  If you will not submit to righteous authority you are under the control of unrighteous authority, which is Satan himself.

Authority in the kingdom of God is given…it’s never assumed.  False prophets do not want to be under anyone’s authority because “they get their orders straight from God.”

Source:  Judging Prophecy

2 Timothy 3:16

All Scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.
 
Prophecy Agrees With The Word Of God!

All true prophecy comes from the Holy Spirit who is the author of the Word of God.  Therefore, all prophecy will agree in fact and in spirit with the Word of God.  Any utterance that does not agree with the Word of God is a false prophecy.

Paul wrote, in II Corinthians 1:17-20 that the Word of God is “yea and nay.”  It’s clear!  It’s yes and no.  It’s so simple that a fool cannot err therein.  You are wheat or tares, you are light or darkness, you are sheep or goats, you are saved or lost, you are living in truth or living in deception.

Isaiah 8:20 says, “To the law and to the testimony:  if they speak not according to the word, it is because there is no light in them.”  False prophets are in darkness.

Prophecy must agree with the Word of God to be acceptable as truth.  Anything else is deception disguised as a “new thing” the Holy Spirit is doing. 

If the prophecy is not in keeping with the Word of God, the Holy Spirit is nowhere around.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

1 John 4:1

Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
Prophecy Should Be Judged By Scripture So That When An Utterance Is Given, It Can Be Known If It Is From God, The Flesh Or The Devil.

When TRUTH is denied, deception is released. 

Jesus warned his disciples in Matthew 24, that deception would be the foremost sign of the end of the age.  He repeated that message three times in the same chapter.

False prophets and false prophecy abound in America today.  False prophecy can only lead into massive deception or leave a confused believer the object of manipulation or domination by false prophets who have ungodly motives and a hidden agenda.

Prophecy or Witchcraft?

Some prophets are claiming to be legitimate because “I’m right five out of ten times.”  Those averages would get you stoned to death in Israel in the times of the prophets.

Ignore all prophecy from anyone who does not operate under Spiritual authority!

Prophets are to be accountable to the fathers of the church.  Those who are not under such spiritual authority are wolves in sheep’s clothing. 

All prophecy is to be submitted to judgment.

If there is no one to judge the prophecy, you should not have the prophecy.  Paul wrote in I Corinthians 14:29…”Let the prophets speak two or three and let the others judge.”

Prophecy is for believers only!

In the Old Testament prophecy was for nonbelievers but in the New Testament prophecy is for believers only.  Paul said, “…but prophesying serveth not for them that believeth not, but for them which believe” 1 Corinthians 14:22.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Ephesians 4:15

 but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head, even Christ

The more you speak the truth in love, the more love your partner will show!     Part Two—
The first duty of love is to listen!

Communication is sending and receiving, therefore listening is just as important as talking.  Listening demands concentration, it demands thinking about what’s being said.  Listening also means getting involved emotionally with the person who’s speaking.

Sometimes Diana talks to me and I can hear her voice off in the distance.  And she’ll say, “You have a thousand yard stare in a ten foot room.”  That means that I’m staring into space.  She walks over and puts her hands in front of my eyes and waves them like windshield wipers and say s something like, “Earth to John.  Earth to John.”  And in two or three minutes I get it together and start hearing what she’s saying!

Wife, when your husband comes home from work looking like a matador who’s been gored by a wild bull, do not pick this time to tell him that your mother has moved in for the summer.  This is not the time to tell him the IRS called and wants to investigate his business all the way back to the Civil War.  This is not the time to tell him you have wrecked the care, and if he would like to see the left rear fender, it’s in the trunk.  Choose the right time to communicate.

Don’t raise your voice.  Speak kindly, calmly.  State your case one time and then trust the Holy Spirit to press the truth home.

Healthy communication in marriage includes praying with and for each other.  

Do you pray with your partner in marriage every day?  Probably not.  But that’s the way it should be.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Colossians 3:23

And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.
Quit Trying To Be What Other People Want You To Be, And Dare To Be Who God Made You To Be!

I want to say this to those of you who are single, and you’re looking for that perfect someone.  Let me tell you, he or she does not exist.  Let me continue to rain on your parade by telling you that anyone can be wonderful for three hours on Saturday night—the real person is home in a cage, locked up.  And that’s the one you’re going to meet when you get married.

I hear people say things like this all the time when they’re about to get married:  “Oh, I’ll change Leroy.”  No you won’t.  If Leroy won’t let God change him, he won’t let you.  Men say, ”Oh, I’ll see to it that Lulu changes.”  No you won’t Lulu will hurt you partner.

Why do people in relationships play roles?  They play roles so the other person will like them.  It’s actually emotional suicide, but that’s what people do all the time.

Why is it emotional suicide?  Because that person is going to change.  The person you’re playing the role for is going to change his or her mind about what they want you to be.  And then you’re going to have to play another role.  And then another, and then another.  And somewhere down the road of life you’re going to lose contact with somebody that’s very real to you—yourself. 

Quit trying to be what other people want you to be, and dare to be who God made you to be.  And be happy being that, because the lack of honesty between two partners in a relationship is a communication killer.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Philippians 2:3

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
Communication Is Giving Your Partner In Marriage The Freedom To Disagree With You—Without Flying Into A Rage, Without Pouting For A Week Or Sulking Most Of The Day!

When you and I can sit down and talk with each other, and honestly tell each other who we are…what we think…what we feel…what we love—when I can tell you all that and know that you’re not going to eat me alive, then maybe communication can begin.  Until then, it doesn’t have a chance.

The fact is, if you demand that your spouse agree with you in all things, you are denying them emotional and intellectual life.  That person will have a mental breakdown or an emotional breakdown, or they will some day divorce you.

Why is communication so important?
Because you and I are not stone statues. 

In order to communicate, you must recognize and allow for change.  In other words, if you knew me yesterday, please don’t think that you know me today, because I’ve changed.  You are a different person that when you went to bed last night.  Actually, you change little by little, every day of your life.

Someone who is getting a divorce will make the statement, “We just grew apart.”  No, what really happened is that they quit communicating.  I did not say they quit talking, I said they quit communicating.

You can talk about the weather.  You can talk about your dress.  You can talk about the car.  You can talk about your child’s medical needs—but that is not communication.  You are not communicating until you tell each other what you feel and what you think.  Anything else is just chitchat, it’s not communication.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Luke 1:30-32, 37-38

Then the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.  And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call His name JESUS.  He will be great, and will be called the Son of the Highest; and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David.”  “For with God nothing will be impossible.”  Then Mary said, “Behold the maid servant of the Lord!  Let it be to me according to your word.”  

Motherhood—God’s Instrument Of Divine Destiny
Mary’s reaction to the angel’s announcement that she was to be the mother of God was evidence of her strong faith and devotion to the Lord.  Though she knew she risked being put to death under the law of Moses, she rejected fear, shame, sorrow, regret, tears, secrecy, seclusion and the urge to run and hid.  Instead, she magnified the Lord and ran to tell Elizabeth, “I’m going to have a baby.”  She was able to rejoice because she knew the Lord and trusted His way and not the way of the world.

Mary is a pattern for godly mothers in today’s society where Satan wants to blast the family unit apart like a Fourth of July fireworks explosion in an effort to keep our children from reaching their divine destiny.  Just as the Enemy attempted to stop the birth of Christ Jesus, he is working hard to thwart God’s plans for America’s children with abortion and secular indoctrination.  But I thank God for mothers who choose life and raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, for like Mary, they can say: 

My soul magnifies the LORD,
And my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior. 
For He has regarded the lowly state of His maidservant;
For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed. 
For He who is mighty has done great things for me,
And holy is His name.  
And His mercy is on those who fear Him
From generation to generation.  Luke 1:46-50

Source:  Take America Back

Psalm 26:5

 I have hated the assembly of evildoers, And will not sit with the wicked.
Happiness Comes Through Death—Part Three

The first thing we will feel in eternity will be the hand of God the Father wiping every tear from our eyes!

We may die suddenly, without our families standing by, without our friends to comfort us.  But none of us who are members of the family of God will ever die without our heavenly Father there to comfort us and welcome us into the land of absolute perfection He has created just for us.

As we arrive in the New Jerusalem, we will notice people arriving from the north, the south, the east and the west; from every nation, tribe and tongue on earth.  We will see that each side of the foursquare city has three massive gates of solid pearl.  On the gates are inscribed the names of the twelve tribes of Israel.

The foundation of the city has twelve layers of precious stones.  As the gates swing open, we will see streets of pure gold.  The city is dazzling, having no need of sun or moon or stars, for the glory of God will cause it to shine like ten thousand suns.

As the gates swing wide to welcome us, God the Father will present each of us with a white stone that has each one’s new name engraved on it.  Just as God changed Abram to Abraham, and Jacob to Israel, so He will give us a new name that will reflect for all eternity the nature and character He had in mind when He created us.

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Genesis 2:18

And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him."
It Is Not Good To Be Alone, But You Are Always Alone If You Cannot Or Will Not Communicate!

Breakdown in communication, second only to adultery, is cited as one of the top five reasons for divorce today. 

A woman went to her lawyer seeking a divorce, and the lawyer asked her, “Do you have grounds?”  She said, “Yes, we have about an acre and a half.”  The lawyer said, “No, that’s not what I’m after.  What I mean is, do you have a grudge?”  She said, “No, we have a carport.”  “Lady, what I’m asking you,” The lawyer said, “Is your husband beat you up?  The woman said, “No, I get up before he does every morning.”  Finally in exasperation, the lawyer said, “Lady, I’m asking you:  what is the problem with your marriage?”  The woman replied, “We can’t communicate with each other.”

The man who cannot communicate is alone.  The man who is married and will not communicate is alone.  You can be alone in a crowd.  You can go to church and be alone.  You can be alone the rest of your life, stranded on an island you have created, because you can’t communicate to the person who means the most to you.

If you need to jumpstart communication that has broken down in your marriage or any other relationship, ask the Lord to help you get started:

Father, we come before you to ask forgiveness for failing to communicate with our loved ones in a way that would show our love for them.   Show me what to say to them as You release Your healing power in all of our relationships.  In Jesus’ mighty name we ask it.  Amen.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Galatians 6:9

And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

God wants persistent plodders!  Part One—

In the book of Ezekiel, God presents the four faces of the man of God.  These are the four characteristics of those who serve the Lord.  The fist is the face of a lion.  The righteous are as bold as a lion, the Bible says Proverbs 28:1.  If you’re not bold, then you’re not righteous.  The second face is that of an eagle.  Those who wait upon the Lord “shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles” Isaiah 40:31 and sail into the very presence of the living God.  The third face is the face of a man, because you will always be a human being, no matter how spiritual you think you are.

The fourth face is that of an ox, which brings me to the point.  An ox is a persistent plodder.  When you feed an ox, it does not bray like a donkey.  It just gets out and plows.  Give it some oats and it will plow, plow, plow.  More oats; more plow.  No bellyaching, it just plods and plows.  Let me tell you something, friend.  God is not looking for flash and dash.  He’s looking for persistent plodders.  Thos with flash and dash will fall in the ditch.  God is looking for the oxen who will put their shoulders to the wheel and pull, who are committed to discipline, determined to finish the race.  God is looking for men and women who will be divine, persistent plodders to pursue the purposes of God.

Perseverance is the portrait of the saints.  How can you tell who’s a Christian?  Certainly not by what they say.  You can talk the talk and not walk the walk.  Certainly not by what they write.  If the glowing reports on the fly pages of every religious book were true, the devil would be in the back end of hell drinking Maalox and waving a white flag, screaming, “No more!”  So how can you tell who’s a Christian?  The Bible gives the answer:  by their fruit.  Fruit cannot be produced in a day.  Fruit cannot be produced in a week.  Fruit takes months and years to come to maturity.  The point is, you can’t tell who is a persistent Christian until you have seen their fruit, and that takes time.  Only the persistent will produce fruit. 

James 3:58

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue.  It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
The Tongue Is A Boneless Monster That Hides Behind A Wall Of Enamel Waiting To Lash Out At Its Victim!

The tongue weighs less than six ounces, but it can crush and kill.

James paints a vivid portrait of the uncontrolled tongue:

The tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.  Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.  The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body.  It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

From time to time we watch massive forest fires rage out of control, firefighters helpless to stop the devastation.  Homes, businesses, schools, churches and millions of dollars in timber are lost.

So it is with the tongue.  It is Satan’s tool for destroying homes, marriages, friendships and churches.

The Bible tells of only two sources of fire for the tongue.  It can be set ablaze with the fire of the Holy Spirit Acts 2, or it can be set on fire by hell.

The choice is ours!

Words are the transcript of the mind.  A man’s words are an index of his character.  Jesus said, “Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” Matthew 12:34.

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

Matthew 12:36-37

For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.
 
Constructive Criticism Seeks To Restore.  Destructive Criticism Seeks To Tear Down.

Constructive criticism attacks the problem, not the person.  Destructive criticism attacks the person and ignores the problem.  Its venom is planted by a twolegged viper trying to crush another person’s selfimage, character or spirituality with a selfrighteous vengeance.

To Restore or Tear Down?

Remember the account recorded in John 8 of the woman caught in the act of adultery?  The Pharisees wanted to kill her.  But Jesus found a way to restore her.  When something within us wants to hurt another person with our speech, we can be sure it’s the voice of evil trying to use our tongues to do its dirty work.

Constructive criticism says, I may not like what you do, but I like you.  Destructive criticism is designed from the outset to hurt, to create selfdoubt, to foster suspicion.  It’s one of Satan’s favorite weapons for destroying friendships, marriages and churches.

Jesus warns us “men will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

There are times when unpleasant truth does have to be told. 

Here are four commonsense questions to ask in handling these difficult situations:
Is what I’m about to say absolutely true?
Is it absolutely necessary to tell it, to this audience, at this time, under these circumstances?
Is it fair to all concerned?
Is my motive in telling it pure?

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

1 John 5:6

And it is the Spirit that beareth witness, because the Spirit is truth.
True Prophecy Given By The Holy Spirit Will Bear Witness With Your Spirit!

One Sunday at Cornerstone Church, just as I was getting ready to start the service, a man I didn’t know bolted to the platform, leaned over me and said, “I have a prophecy from the Lord that God has told me to give today.”

The Bible says, “Know those that labor among you…” I didn’t know this man from Adam’s ox.  In obedience to the scripture I said, “I don’t know you.  Go sit down!”

He instantly started spewing out threats against me saying, “If you don’t allow me to give this prophecy all the plagues of Egypt will come upon you.”

He started waking toward the pulpit to address the congregation anyway.  I let him know I was fully prepared and totally willing to put him on his backside if he tried to speak to the congregation without my permission.

The next Sunday morning he returned to the church with several of his followers.  As I got up and started the service they all stood and began to chant, ”John Hagee is a Pharaoh.”

Our security team had to forcibly remove these “choice servants” of God from the service. 

I discovered they were a local cult group who did not believe in the building of new churches and we were in the process of building our new 5000seat church.

If I had let him go to the pulpit the people in my congregation would have rightly assumed that he was a man of God and that what he said was from God and my congregation would have been saturated with the spirit of doubt and confusion.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

2 Corinthians 3:6

 …for the letter kills but the spirit gives life.
True Prophecy Injects Fresh Life Into A Meeting Of Believers

Whenever there is true prophecy that comes from the throne of God, the Holy Spirit will breathe upon it; and it will bring spiritual life to that meeting of believers.  The people will be edified, exhorted and comforted.  There will be a spirit of celebration and joy. 

Please understand prophecy can be bold and penetrating but in the end it will heal and restore, it will bring life and liberty.

I was the guest speaker on one occasion and at the end of the first night I felt like I had missed God in accepting the invitation to speak at this place at this time because my words seemed to hit the back wall and fall to the floor. 

After the first service I sought the Lord saying, “I prayed and asked about coming to this place.  I felt that I had your blessing in coming…and now I feel like I’ve missed your will.  Father, tell me where I missed it!

The Holy Spirit began to move in that room and I knew that I had not missed the Lord in coming.  Then He gave me a powerful word of knowledge.  With a knowing that is supernatural I knew that the leadership of the church was involved in homosexuality and adultery.

The next night as I was introduced to speak, the spirit of prophecy came and said, “The Lord has sent me here to say that the leadership of this church is involved in homosexuality and the church is riddled with adultery.  God is calling you to repent and to return to holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.”

The sound of silence filled the church.  Then suddenly and softly men and women in the audience began to sob and walk forward to repent of their sin.  Following the repentance there was a spirit of joy and celebration.  There was life in the service brought about by true prophecy.

The next night when I stood to speak, every word was absorbed as we drank deeply from the fountains of living water.  The spirit of prophecy and the word of knowledge had broken the yoke of sin and Satan…and we were now experiencing abundant life.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

1 Corinthians 14:13

For you have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but you have received the spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

II Corinthians 3:17—Now the Lord is that Spirit:  and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.
True Prophecy Produces Liberty… Not Bondage.

True prophecy will bring liberty to the individual and not bondage.  Any form of control over another person by intimidation, manipulation or domination is witchcraft.  False prophecy will lead to witchcraft.

Spiritual dependency on any person to receive a word from the Lord is not a healthy relationship.  A church or prayer group led by a pope or popette is on the road to confusion, deception, and control by the persons upon whom it becomes dependent.

Hear me!  Don’t get hooked on anyone but Jesus!

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Deuteronomy 13:1-5

If there arises among you a prophet or a dreamer of dreams, and he gives you a sign or a wonder, and the sign or the wonder comes to pass, of which he spoke to you, saying, 'Let us go after other gods'; which you have not known; 'and let us serve them, you shall not listen to the words of that prophet or that dreamer of dreams, for the LORD your God is testing you to know whether you love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul. 

If A Prophecy Comes True And It Promotes Disobedience Against God Or The Scripture, It Is Not A True Prophecy!
Moses clearly states that just because the prophecy comes true does not mean the person who gave it is from God.  Looking to that prophet for “the answer” instead of God is idolatry that will bring the judgment of God upon you.

Paul encountered a young woman possessed with a spirit of divination Acts 16:16-18 who followed him through the streets and everything that came out of her mouth was true.  Without doubt many local charismatics went to her for guidance and touted her as a “spiritfilled woman.”  She was spiritfilled…filled with a demon spirit.

Paul commanded for the demon spirit to come out right on the street and the spirit of divination came out that same hour.  She was a slave and her master was furious because he was getting rich off her ability to give accurate predictions to other people.

Get it straight!  Satan will tell you enough truth to get you to listen, and then he’ll subtly lead you concept by concept into deception until you are his mental and emotional prisoner.


Source:  Judging Prophecy

Deuteronomy 18:20

But the prophet, which shall presume to speak a word in my name, which I have not commanded him to speak, or that shall speak in the name of other gods, even that prophet shall die.

If prophecy contains predictions that do not come true, the prophecy was false!
If we stoned false prophets in America we wouldn’t have so many people walking around saying, ”Yeah, yeah, thus saith the Lord,” When you presumed to speak as a prophet in Israel and the did not come to pass, they killed you.  That’s one way to reduce the volume of false prophecy.

Deuteronomy 18:21-22—And if you say in your heart, “How shall we know the word which the LORD has not spoken?”  When a prophet speaks in the name of the LORD, if the thing does not happen or come to pass that is the thing which the LORD has not spoken; the prophet has spoken it presumptuously; you shall not be afraid of him.

Simply stated, if someone prophesies in the name of the Lord and it does not come to pass, he or she is not a prophet.  You are ordered not to fear that person.  They do not represent God the Father.

Paul says that we are to prophesy according to the measure of our faith, “Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith’ Romans 12:6. 

Dynamic faith will produce a dynamic prophecy saturated with power and anointing.

Limited faith will produce a limited prophecy. 

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Matthew 7:15-16

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.  You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thorn bushes or figs from thistles?
Prophecy must agree with the fruit of the Spirit!

Matthew 7:15-16 states that false prophets come as wolves in sheep’s clothing.  They look fine.  They even act like sheep.  They know all the church expressions that all “the right kind of people” know how to use. 

The first thing a false prophet or any person in deception will tell you is “DON’T JUDGE ME!”  You are not judging, you are checking his fruit.

What constitutes judging and what constitutes fruit inspection?  Judging is when you have two Christians side by side and you make an inward decision as to which of them is the most spiritual.  That’s judging.  Only God can see the heart and know the motive.

When Al Capone and Mother Teresa stand side by side and Al tells you not to judge him for his lying, rape, murder, tax evasion etc., you aren’t judging him when you call him a child of the devil.  That’s what he is.  His fruit declares it and for you to say anything else would place your intelligence in question.

Peter describes a false prophet by saying, “But chiefly them which walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness and despise government.  Presumptuous are thy, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities 2 Peter 2:10.

The phrase “despise government.”  Government means spiritual authority.  If you will not submit to righteous authority you are under the control of unrighteous authority, which is Satan himself.

Authority in the kingdom of God is given…it’s never assumed.  False prophets do not want to be under anyone’s authority because “they get their orders straight from God.”

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Romans 14:17

Romans 14:17—For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit.
Prophecy must bear fruit and agree with the Holy Spirit in conduct and character!

The words “meat and drink” are Paul’s attack on legalism.  Legalism is the keeping of manmade rules to gain righteousness with God.  The Jews were very concerned about the keeping of manmade rules concerning “meat and drink.”  How well they kept these rules determined their righteousness with God.  That’s legalism!

God hates legalism!  Why?  Because if you can be made righteous by the rules you keep, Christ died in vain.  Legalism makes righteousness possible through what I do and not what Christ did for me at Calvary.

Most denominations practice some form of legalism.  Most have a complete set of manmade rules that have no basis in Scripture.  Paul states in Romans chapter four that all that is required to be righteous is to believe that Christ died for our sins that he rose again and sits at the right hand of the Father.  If you believe that statement, you are righteous, and all your efforts to keep goofy manmade rules are an absolute waste of time.

What is righteousness?  Righteousness is living by God’s standards of right and wrong and humanists don’t want to answer to God or anyone else about their Godless conduct. 

In Washington D.C. there is a Department of Weights and measures.  This department exists so that sixteen ounces of bologna in Texas is sixteen ounces of bologna in California.

God has a Department of Standards too.  It’s called the Word of God.  Sin in Texas is sin in California and it’s sin in Europe.  God does not have different strokes for different folks.


Source:  Judging Prophecy

2 Timothy 3:16

All Scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.
 
Prophecy Agrees With The Word Of God!

All true prophecy comes from the Holy Spirit who is the author of the Word of God.  Therefore, all prophecy will agree in fact and in spirit with the Word of God.  Any utterance that does not agree with the Word of God is a false prophecy.

Paul wrote, in II Corinthians 1:17-20 that the Word of God is “yea and nay.”  It’s clear!  It’s yes and no.  It’s so simple that a fool cannot err therein.  You are wheat or tares, you are light or darkness, you are sheep or goats, you are saved or lost, you are living in truth or living in deception.

Isaiah 8:20 says, “To the law and to the testimony:  if they speak not according to the word, it is because there is no light in them.”  False prophets are in darkness.

Prophecy must agree with the Word of God to be acceptable as truth.  Anything else is deception disguised as a “new thing” the Holy Spirit is doing. 

If the prophecy is not in keeping with the Word of God, the Holy Spirit is nowhere around.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

1 Corinthians 14:3

But he that prophesied speaketh unto men to edification, and exhortation, and comfort.
 
The Purpose Of New Testament Prophecy Is To Edify, Exhort And Comfort

The word, “edify,” means to build up or strengthen.  The word, “exhort,” means to encourage and the word “comfort” means exactly that. 

The message of prophecy is positive!

When anyone speaks a message into your life that leaves you filled with condemnation or fear or disturbs your peace…that message was not from God.  Forget that prophecy!

Let me explain the difference between the spirit of condemnation and the spirit of conviction.  The Holy Spirit convicts; Satan condemns.  When the Holy Spirit convicts, it says, “You told a lie, repent and be restored.”  God the Holy Spirit exposes the problem, tells you how to solve it and the solution will always bring peace.  Afterwards, you feel uplifted, edified, encouraged, and comforted.

The spirit of condemnation is from Satan and it leaves you saturated with a sense of defeat and despair.  There are no solutions and there is no edification, exhortation or comfort.  There is nothing positive!  Afterwards there is no relief.  Receive the spirit of conviction; reject the spirit of condemnation.

Let me illustrate from Scripture.  Jeremiah 1:10 gives a prophecy that says, “See, today I appoint you over nations and kingdoms to uproot and ear down, to destroy and overthrow, to build and plant.”  The words “uproot, tear down, destroy and overthrow,” tell you what needs to be done.  Then the Holy Spirit gives a positive solution…”build and plant.”  Compare II Corinthians 10:8 and 13:10 with Jeremiah 1:10 and discover from Scripture that the end purpose of all true prophecy is to edify.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

1 John 4:1

Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
Prophecy Should Be Judged By Scripture So That When An Utterance Is Given, It Can Be Known If It Is From God, The Flesh Or The Devil.

When TRUTH is denied, deception is released. 

Jesus warned his disciples in Matthew 24, that deception would be the foremost sign of the end of the age.  He repeated that message three times in the same chapter.

False prophets and false prophecy abound in America today.  False prophecy can only lead into massive deception or leave a confused believer the object of manipulation or domination by false prophets who have ungodly motives and a hidden agenda.

Prophecy or Witchcraft?

Some prophets are claiming to be legitimate because “I’m right five out of ten times.”  Those averages would get you stoned to death in Israel in the times of the prophets.

Ignore all prophecy from anyone who does not operate under Spiritual authority!

Prophets are to be accountable to the fathers of the church.  Those who are not under such spiritual authority are wolves in sheep’s clothing. 

All prophecy is to be submitted to judgment.

If there is no one to judge the prophecy, you should not have the prophecy.  Paul wrote in I Corinthians 14:29…”Let the prophets speak two or three and let the others judge.”

Prophecy is for believers only!

In the Old Testament prophecy was for nonbelievers but in the New Testament prophecy is for believers only.  Paul said, “…but prophesying serveth not for them that believeth not, but for them which believe” 1 Corinthians 14:22.

Source:  Judging Prophecy

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

Ephesians 5:22— Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
When You’re Wrong, Say, “I’m Sorry.”  When You’re Right, Be Quiet.  Say, “I Love You,” And Say It Often!

The greatest problem in marriage occurs when both partners are struggling to be the leader. 

A physical body has only one head.  A physical body that has two heads is a freak.  Under God’s plan, the husband is the leader, and it is the wife’s responsibility to follow that leadership.

You need to stand by your man, with Jesus’ help. 

If you’re not happy with the quality of relationship in your marriage, pray this prayer with me:

Heavenly Father, in Jesus’ name, help me to be honest right now.  Help me, as a child of God, to stop pretending that everything is well when it’s not.  Help me to come out from behind my mask and be real.

Lord Jesus Christ, I confess that you are my Lord and Savior.  And I ask you to change everything within me that presents anything contrary to your perfect will in my life.  Change everything in me that prevents perfect communication.

Father, today in Jesus’ name, remove from me all pouting, intimidation, manipulation, and every kind of hidden motive that separates my partner and me.

And today, in Jesus’ name, heal the bitter memories of our past.  Restore us.  Refresh us.  Bring us together with a newness.  Let our relationship sizzle with the anointing of the Holy Spirit, in Jesus’ name, Amen.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Ephesians 4:15

 but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head, even Christ

The more you speak the truth in love, the more love your partner will show!     Part Two—
The first duty of love is to listen!

Communication is sending and receiving, therefore listening is just as important as talking.  Listening demands concentration, it demands thinking about what’s being said.  Listening also means getting involved emotionally with the person who’s speaking.

Sometimes Diana talks to me and I can hear her voice off in the distance.  And she’ll say, “You have a thousand yard stare in a ten foot room.”  That means that I’m staring into space.  She walks over and puts her hands in front of my eyes and waves them like windshield wipers and say s something like, “Earth to John.  Earth to John.”  And in two or three minutes I get it together and start hearing what she’s saying!

Wife, when your husband comes home from work looking like a matador who’s been gored by a wild bull, do not pick this time to tell him that your mother has moved in for the summer.  This is not the time to tell him the IRS called and wants to investigate his business all the way back to the Civil War.  This is not the time to tell him you have wrecked the care, and if he would like to see the left rear fender, it’s in the trunk.  Choose the right time to communicate.

Don’t raise your voice.  Speak kindly, calmly.  State your case one time and then trust the Holy Spirit to press the truth home.

Healthy communication in marriage includes praying with and for each other.  

Do you pray with your partner in marriage every day?  Probably not.  But that’s the way it should be.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Ephesians 4:15

but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head, even Christ

The More You Speak The Truth In Love, The More Love Your Partner Will Show—Part One

Two friends had been out a little later than they should have.  They came home to their respective wives late and the next day they met.  One man said to the other, “Was your wife angry because we were out late last night?”  The other man said, “Nah, in the final analysis, she came to me on her hands and her knees.”  “No kidding?  How did it happen?” the first man asked.  The second man looked kind of sheepish and said, “She crawled across the bedroom floor on her hands and knees, looked under the bed and said, “Come out from under there you coward, and fight like a man!”

Psychologist Dr. Henry Brandt says there is no nakedness that can compare to psychological and emotional nakedness.  When your wife or your husband points out your deficiency, you grasp for something to cover yourself with. 

I hear wives saying, “Well, I just can’t talk to my husband about that.  He’ll get mad.”  Let him get mad.  Go ahead and talk to him about it.  Men say ”Oh, I just can’t talk to my wife about that.  She’ll holler for a week.”  Let her holler!  Hit it head on and talk right through it.

Nothing improves your wife’s hearing like praise.  I don’t mean you have to get up every morning and sing, “There she is, Miss America.”  That’s a little much.  But praise would help.

The more love a partner shows, the easier it is to praise.  Truth is a two edged sword, and when you pick it up to use it, make sure you’re using it candidly and cautiously with your marriage partner.


Source:  Communication In Marriage

Colossians 3:23

And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.
Quit Trying To Be What Other People Want You To Be, And Dare To Be Who God Made You To Be!

I want to say this to those of you who are single, and you’re looking for that perfect someone.  Let me tell you, he or she does not exist.  Let me continue to rain on your parade by telling you that anyone can be wonderful for three hours on Saturday night—the real person is home in a cage, locked up.  And that’s the one you’re going to meet when you get married.

I hear people say things like this all the time when they’re about to get married:  “Oh, I’ll change Leroy.”  No you won’t.  If Leroy won’t let God change him, he won’t let you.  Men say, ”Oh, I’ll see to it that Lulu changes.”  No you won’t Lulu will hurt you partner.

Why do people in relationships play roles?  They play roles so the other person will like them.  It’s actually emotional suicide, but that’s what people do all the time.

Why is it emotional suicide?  Because that person is going to change.  The person you’re playing the role for is going to change his or her mind about what they want you to be.  And then you’re going to have to play another role.  And then another, and then another.  And somewhere down the road of life you’re going to lose contact with somebody that’s very real to you—yourself. 

Quit trying to be what other people want you to be, and dare to be who God made you to be.  And be happy being that, because the lack of honesty between two partners in a relationship is a communication killer.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Romans 15:1

We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to please ourselves.
The First Commandment Of Communication Is This: If I Am Willing To Risk Exposing Myself Emotionally To You, Don’t You Dare Make Me Feel Ashamed!

No one likes to be ridiculed or rejected by someone they love.  If you are afraid of ridicule or rejection, you will refuse to communicate your true feelings.

When you start belittling the other person, communication stops, and emotional murder begins.

Emotional murder will change the partners in a relationship into what sociologists call married singles.  You live under the same roof, but you are divorced from each other emotionally.  You have the same name, but you have separate lies.  You go through a marital routine, bumping into each other occasionally, but you have no more than a cursory relationship.  What you had between each other is dead. 

Our society jabbers about how meaningful it is to be honest with each other.  The truth is, most of us are not honest, we’re liars.  We put on masks and play our designated roles. 

Listen, it’s all right to be real.  If things are not going well over at your Ponderosa, it’s all right to say “We’re hurting over here.  We need help.”  That’s being honest.

We’re human beings, with faults and failures and weaknesses.  The Bible says that hose who are strong are to pick up the weak Romans 15:1.  I think it needs an insert—those of you who are strong at the time, pick up those who are weak.  Pick them up, and together we can get to the kingdom of God, because together our strengths in Christ Jesus are greater than the powers and principalities of hell itself.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Philippians 2:3

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
Communication Is Giving Your Partner In Marriage The Freedom To Disagree With You—Without Flying Into A Rage, Without Pouting For A Week Or Sulking Most Of The Day!

When you and I can sit down and talk with each other, and honestly tell each other who we are…what we think…what we feel…what we love—when I can tell you all that and know that you’re not going to eat me alive, then maybe communication can begin.  Until then, it doesn’t have a chance.

The fact is, if you demand that your spouse agree with you in all things, you are denying them emotional and intellectual life.  That person will have a mental breakdown or an emotional breakdown, or they will some day divorce you.

Why is communication so important?
Because you and I are not stone statues. 

In order to communicate, you must recognize and allow for change.  In other words, if you knew me yesterday, please don’t think that you know me today, because I’ve changed.  You are a different person that when you went to bed last night.  Actually, you change little by little, every day of your life.

Someone who is getting a divorce will make the statement, “We just grew apart.”  No, what really happened is that they quit communicating.  I did not say they quit talking, I said they quit communicating.

You can talk about the weather.  You can talk about your dress.  You can talk about the car.  You can talk about your child’s medical needs—but that is not communication.  You are not communicating until you tell each other what you feel and what you think.  Anything else is just chitchat, it’s not communication.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Proverbs 27:17

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.
Communication Takes Two People:  One Sending And One Receiving!

What blood is to the body, communication is to relationships.  When the blood stops flowing, your relationship dies.

What is communication?  Communication is the exchange of feelings or information.

Two people can have a conversation and not communicate at all.  A wife was talking to her husband and she said, “Do you love me with all of your heart and soul?”  He said, “Uh huh.”  She asked him, “Do you think I’m the most beautiful woman in all of the world?”  He said, “Uh huh.”  She said, “Do you think my lips are like rose petals?”  He said, “Uh huh.”  She said, “Oh honey, you say the sweetest things.”

The most important single ingredient in a longterm marriage is the ability to communicate!   

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Luke 1:30-32, 37-38

Then the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.  And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call His name JESUS.  He will be great, and will be called the Son of the Highest; and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David.”  “For with God nothing will be impossible.”  Then Mary said, “Behold the maid servant of the Lord!  Let it be to me according to your word.”  

Motherhood—God’s Instrument Of Divine Destiny
Mary’s reaction to the angel’s announcement that she was to be the mother of God was evidence of her strong faith and devotion to the Lord.  Though she knew she risked being put to death under the law of Moses, she rejected fear, shame, sorrow, regret, tears, secrecy, seclusion and the urge to run and hid.  Instead, she magnified the Lord and ran to tell Elizabeth, “I’m going to have a baby.”  She was able to rejoice because she knew the Lord and trusted His way and not the way of the world.

Mary is a pattern for godly mothers in today’s society where Satan wants to blast the family unit apart like a Fourth of July fireworks explosion in an effort to keep our children from reaching their divine destiny.  Just as the Enemy attempted to stop the birth of Christ Jesus, he is working hard to thwart God’s plans for America’s children with abortion and secular indoctrination.  But I thank God for mothers who choose life and raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, for like Mary, they can say: 

My soul magnifies the LORD,
And my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior. 
For He has regarded the lowly state of His maidservant;
For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed. 
For He who is mighty has done great things for me,
And holy is His name.  
And His mercy is on those who fear Him
From generation to generation.  Luke 1:46-50

Source:  Take America Back

Luke 12:4-5

And I say to you, My friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do.  But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear Him who, after He has killed, has power to cast into hell; yes, I say to you, fear Him!
Happiness Comes Through Death—Part Four

If we haven’t joined the family of God; if we haven’t believed on the Lord Jesus Christ and accepted Him as our personal Lord and Savior, we’ll find ourselves spending eternity in a different place.

It is the place called hell…a place of such utter horror that we can scarcely make ourselves think of it.  It was set aside by God for those who reject Him as their Father and who reject Jesus as Savior and Lord. 

An Inescapable Reality

“But I don’t believe in hell!”  You say.

Perhaps you don’t—but God does.  Jesus says those who don’t believe will not “escape being condemned to hell.”

Do I believe in a place called hell, with a literal, eternal, tormenting fire?  Yes, I do.  And I’m in good company.  Jesus believed in it, too.  He spoke of it often Matthew 5:22, 5:29, 13:41-42.

Every day of our lives, we live one breath away from eternity.  The most important question of life is:  Am I ready to meet God?

If you are not, and you wish to acknowledge God as your Father through His Son, Jesus Christ, just pray this simple prayer and you’ll become a member of the family of God, with heaven as your eternal home:

Heavenly Father, I know that I am a sinner and need your forgiveness.  I believe that Jesus died for my sins.  I am willing to turn away from my sin and follow Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.  Amen.

At this moment, you have discovered the ultimate secret of being happy in an unhappy world.  It’s knowing that God is your heavenly Father, that Jesus is your Lord and Savior, and that heaven is your eternal home!

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Psalm 26:5

 I have hated the assembly of evildoers, And will not sit with the wicked.
Happiness Comes Through Death—Part Three

The first thing we will feel in eternity will be the hand of God the Father wiping every tear from our eyes!

We may die suddenly, without our families standing by, without our friends to comfort us.  But none of us who are members of the family of God will ever die without our heavenly Father there to comfort us and welcome us into the land of absolute perfection He has created just for us.

As we arrive in the New Jerusalem, we will notice people arriving from the north, the south, the east and the west; from every nation, tribe and tongue on earth.  We will see that each side of the foursquare city has three massive gates of solid pearl.  On the gates are inscribed the names of the twelve tribes of Israel.

The foundation of the city has twelve layers of precious stones.  As the gates swing open, we will see streets of pure gold.  The city is dazzling, having no need of sun or moon or stars, for the glory of God will cause it to shine like ten thousand suns.

As the gates swing wide to welcome us, God the Father will present each of us with a white stone that has each one’s new name engraved on it.  Just as God changed Abram to Abraham, and Jacob to Israel, so He will give us a new name that will reflect for all eternity the nature and character He had in mind when He created us.

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Revelation 3:15-16

I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot:  I would that you were cold or hot.  So then, because you are neither could nor hot, I will spew you out of my mouth.

We not only need to play the game according to the rules,
We also need to play it with all our heart, mind, soul and strength. 
We must give it our best shot every minute!

This is our duty before God, who has given us life and in so doing has “put us in the game.”

Remember the sin of the church in Laodicea?  The church didn’t walk off the field and quit altogether.  It kept playing, but only half-heartedly.  John recorded the opinion of our Lord in Revelation 3:15-16.  The message?  Half-hearted play is disgusting in the eyes of God.

When we stand before the righteous judge, His approval will depend not upon our skill, nor upon our success, but upon our willingness to do our duty.  Duty is not what we choose to do; it is what He has chosen for us to do.

It is said that King Henry of Bavaria became weary of court life and decided to enter a monastery.  The prior gave him the rules of the order.  The king listened eagerly and expressed delight at the prospect of such complete consecration.

The prior explained that obedience, exact and complete, was the first requisite of sainthood.  The monarch promised to follow his will in every detail.  “Very well, then,” said the prior. “Go back to your throne and do your duty in the station God has assigned to you.”  The king took up his scepter again.  Ever after, his subjects said of him, “King Henry has learned to rule by learning to obey.”

Learn to obey…wholeheartedly!

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Genesis 2:18

And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him."
It Is Not Good To Be Alone, But You Are Always Alone If You Cannot Or Will Not Communicate!

Breakdown in communication, second only to adultery, is cited as one of the top five reasons for divorce today. 

A woman went to her lawyer seeking a divorce, and the lawyer asked her, “Do you have grounds?”  She said, “Yes, we have about an acre and a half.”  The lawyer said, “No, that’s not what I’m after.  What I mean is, do you have a grudge?”  She said, “No, we have a carport.”  “Lady, what I’m asking you,” The lawyer said, “Is your husband beat you up?  The woman said, “No, I get up before he does every morning.”  Finally in exasperation, the lawyer said, “Lady, I’m asking you:  what is the problem with your marriage?”  The woman replied, “We can’t communicate with each other.”

The man who cannot communicate is alone.  The man who is married and will not communicate is alone.  You can be alone in a crowd.  You can go to church and be alone.  You can be alone the rest of your life, stranded on an island you have created, because you can’t communicate to the person who means the most to you.

If you need to jumpstart communication that has broken down in your marriage or any other relationship, ask the Lord to help you get started:

Father, we come before you to ask forgiveness for failing to communicate with our loved ones in a way that would show our love for them.   Show me what to say to them as You release Your healing power in all of our relationships.  In Jesus’ mighty name we ask it.  Amen.

Source:  Communication In Marriage

Revelation 1:17-18

Do not be afraid…I am the Living One; I was dead, and behold I am alive forever and ever!

Happiness Comes Through Death—Part Two
We fear what we do not understand!

Dying is how we are born into eternity.  Death is the gateway to the life to come.  In God’s time, we will each be forced to pass from this dimension of life into the next.

We fear it.  But just on the other side of the veil, God the Father is rejoicing with the angels, because one of His precious children is coming home.

When Christopher Columbus set sail, the fearful told him that he’d fall off the edge of the planet into the abyss.  Rejecting fear, Columbus set out anyway…and discovered a new world, which defied description.

Jesus Christ also explored an unknown world, the world beyond the grave.  He returned from eternity to tell us, exactly and without doubt, what eternal life is like…”I was dead, and behold I am alive forever and ever!”

Jesus assures us that heaven is real.  He said, “In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you.  I am going there to prepare a place for you.  And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am” John 14:23.

Heaven is a land of perfection, created by the architect of the ages for the family of God.  It is a city “whose architect and builder is God” Hebrews 11:10.  It is a city where there is “no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away” Revelation 21:4.

Source:  Being Happy in an Unhappy World

Galatians 6:9

And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

God wants persistent plodders!  Part One—

In the book of Ezekiel, God presents the four faces of the man of God.  These are the four characteristics of those who serve the Lord.  The fist is the face of a lion.  The righteous are as bold as a lion, the Bible says Proverbs 28:1.  If you’re not bold, then you’re not righteous.  The second face is that of an eagle.  Those who wait upon the Lord “shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles” Isaiah 40:31 and sail into the very presence of the living God.  The third face is the face of a man, because you will always be a human being, no matter how spiritual you think you are.

The fourth face is that of an ox, which brings me to the point.  An ox is a persistent plodder.  When you feed an ox, it does not bray like a donkey.  It just gets out and plows.  Give it some oats and it will plow, plow, plow.  More oats; more plow.  No bellyaching, it just plods and plows.  Let me tell you something, friend.  God is not looking for flash and dash.  He’s looking for persistent plodders.  Thos with flash and dash will fall in the ditch.  God is looking for the oxen who will put their shoulders to the wheel and pull, who are committed to discipline, determined to finish the race.  God is looking for men and women who will be divine, persistent plodders to pursue the purposes of God.

Perseverance is the portrait of the saints.  How can you tell who’s a Christian?  Certainly not by what they say.  You can talk the talk and not walk the walk.  Certainly not by what they write.  If the glowing reports on the fly pages of every religious book were true, the devil would be in the back end of hell drinking Maalox and waving a white flag, screaming, “No more!”  So how can you tell who’s a Christian?  The Bible gives the answer:  by their fruit.  Fruit cannot be produced in a day.  Fruit cannot be produced in a week.  Fruit takes months and years to come to maturity.  The point is, you can’t tell who is a persistent Christian until you have seen their fruit, and that takes time.  Only the persistent will produce fruit. 

Psalm 34:12-13

Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.
The Bible Says The First Area Of Our Lives That Should Reflect The Presence Of God Is Our Speech.

I often joke that some of us should stop asking God for power to raise the dead and start asking Him for power to close our mouths.

“He who guards his mouth and his tongue,” the Bible says, “keeps himself from calamity” Proverbs 21:23.  “Calamity” is a strong word.  It means to be stricken physically, financially, emotionally and mentally.  Many Christians suffer calamity because their tongues are out of control and God is letting them eat the fruit of it.  They may be saved, but they’re certainly not happy.

When we’re not feeling well and we go to the doctor, he says, “Let me see your tongue.”  His trained eye can spot the diseases of the body through the evidence of the tongue. 

When we come to God in prayer, He says, “Let Me see your tongue.”  He can spot the stains of criticism, of faultfinding, of gossip and slander.

We should only criticize when we can do so with justice, with kindness and with humility, for the purpose of solving a problem and not attacking a person.  To criticize in any other way is to hurt others and ourselves.

In the same way, we should learn to ignore some criticisms and to welcome others.  In doing so, we will take an adversity and convert it to an asset and learn more deeply how to be happy in an unhappy world.

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

James 3:58

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue.  It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
The Tongue Is A Boneless Monster That Hides Behind A Wall Of Enamel Waiting To Lash Out At Its Victim!

The tongue weighs less than six ounces, but it can crush and kill.

James paints a vivid portrait of the uncontrolled tongue:

The tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.  Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.  The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body.  It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

From time to time we watch massive forest fires rage out of control, firefighters helpless to stop the devastation.  Homes, businesses, schools, churches and millions of dollars in timber are lost.

So it is with the tongue.  It is Satan’s tool for destroying homes, marriages, friendships and churches.

The Bible tells of only two sources of fire for the tongue.  It can be set ablaze with the fire of the Holy Spirit Acts 2, or it can be set on fire by hell.

The choice is ours!

Words are the transcript of the mind.  A man’s words are an index of his character.  Jesus said, “Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” Matthew 12:34.

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

John 8:29

And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.

Destructive Criticism Will Lose Its Hold On Us When We Decide To Become Father Pleasers Instead Of People Pleasers!

If Jesus promised that criticism would be the result of living a godly life in a godless society, why should we be so surprised and upset when it comes?  One reason is that many of us were raised with the notion that we must please everyone at all times.

What rubbish!  Jesus was the Son of God.  He was absolute perfection in human flesh.  He couldn’t please everyone, and neither can we.

I know forty year old people who are still trying desperately to accommodate the unreasonable demands of their parents.  When their parents criticize them for not being attentive enough, they go into a funk.  Scripture says that we are to leave our parents and become part of the new family created when we get married Matthew 19:5.  I believe the same principle applies to single adults who have left home and set out on their own.

Certainly it’s right to honor our parents.  But it is unscriptural to let them dominate our lives.  We must cut the umbilical cord and close the door to continued criticism designed to manipulate us, our spouses and our children.

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World

Matthew 12:36-37

For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.
 
Constructive Criticism Seeks To Restore.  Destructive Criticism Seeks To Tear Down.

Constructive criticism attacks the problem, not the person.  Destructive criticism attacks the person and ignores the problem.  Its venom is planted by a twolegged viper trying to crush another person’s selfimage, character or spirituality with a selfrighteous vengeance.

To Restore or Tear Down?

Remember the account recorded in John 8 of the woman caught in the act of adultery?  The Pharisees wanted to kill her.  But Jesus found a way to restore her.  When something within us wants to hurt another person with our speech, we can be sure it’s the voice of evil trying to use our tongues to do its dirty work.

Constructive criticism says, I may not like what you do, but I like you.  Destructive criticism is designed from the outset to hurt, to create selfdoubt, to foster suspicion.  It’s one of Satan’s favorite weapons for destroying friendships, marriages and churches.

Jesus warns us “men will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

There are times when unpleasant truth does have to be told. 

Here are four commonsense questions to ask in handling these difficult situations:
Is what I’m about to say absolutely true?
Is it absolutely necessary to tell it, to this audience, at this time, under these circumstances?
Is it fair to all concerned?
Is my motive in telling it pure?

Source:  Being Happy In An Unhappy World